Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Calling on the Carpenter of Nazareth for Help with House-Selling Stress

According to a survey in the Daily Mail, selling a house is one of most stressful experiences people go through, topping death and divorce. 

Although I’d much rather lose a house than lose my husband, having sold five houses during the lifetime of our marriage, I can see why people think that way.

Like the marble in a pinball machine, the process of house-selling lights up every nerve of anxiety, high hope, crushed hope, rejection and self-respect in the human body. Strangers poke in your closets, widen their eyes about that paint color you liked so much but now want to blame on the previous owner, and inspect your refrigerator, did you remember to dump that squishy squash out of the vegetable bin? But don’t take it personally, your realtor advises.

And don’t be offended when that same eye-rolling couple offers you ten-thousand less and wants you to throw in your new front-loading, steam-drying, music-playing washer/dryer set along with those ten floor-to-ceiling Pottery Barn window panels you’ve wanted for so long.

The dread of having to carry on life in a house that is so immaculately impersonal it looks as though no one actually lives there, or having to pack up the pooch and flee out the door on a moment’s notice, may tempt you to take that first offer. But wait—is it really a good decision, or is fear making you a desperate desperado?

Whether it’s a house offer, book contract, job, date or mate, the first is not always the best.

Sometimes you have to trust yourself to wait.

I knew when a young couple, first-time buyers, put an offer on our house a few hours after it went on the market. I knew they had wanted a new, easy maintenance house but were suddenly charmed by our big, old southern belle. I knew their realtor wasn’t a fan of their decision as she handed over their best offer.

 I knew we shouldn’t have signed a contract that tied up our house on the very first day, causing a dozen or so viewings to withdraw their appointments.

But we did it anyway

A week later, the buyers’ realtor, the buyers and the inspector arrived on our doorstep with the intensity of hounds on a hunt. They started in the attic. My husband hadn’t gotten as far as his truck when they came fleeing out the door, the realtor yelping something about seeing daylight in the eaves and poor 100-year-old rafter construction.

They immediately withdrew their offer leaving us where we’d begun. Actually worse off. Once I heard the bad report, the giants of impossibilities stomped through my mind, and I sank into the slough of despair.

This house is so old we can never fix all that is needed (This, after having spent about $70,000 in fixer-upper projects on it.) I’m embarrassed to remarket it now that it didn’t make it through an inspection. How can we possibly rebuild the whole stinking thing to make it like a new house? How can I bear to go through another inspection—what if it fails? 

I worried during the day. I fretted late into the night. Like David, “I pour{ed} my complaint before him” in the early morning hours.

And then it hit me.

 Jesus was a carpenter!

Surely he would know how to rectify the ailments of this old house. (The fact that he also created the universe didn’t escape me, but somehow thinking of him as a carpenter brought the problem down to size.) I started praying to the Carpenter of Nazareth. Could it be the problems weren’t as bad as the previous people had thought? Would he send an inspector who understood and liked old houses?

We put the house back on the market. It quickly went under contract a second time and was again scheduled for an inspection. For the next week, anxiety stuck closer to me than my shadow on a sunny day. Morning, noon and night I beseeched the Carpenter of Nazareth to fortify old beams, fill in ancient insect trails and find favor with the inspector.

 The day of the dreaded inspection, I left early to avoid running into the inspector. To my chagrin, he was still there when I came home. He rounded the corner as I was bolting for the door.

“Are you the homeowner?” he asked.

The jig was up. I hesitated, then turned to face him.

“Great house,” he said.

Of course it’s easy for me to tell you, now, a year later, from the comfort of a new home, to wait on the Lord and trust yourself with the discernment he’s given you. Although stressful, selling a house is not death and not divorce. Still, it’s not too small a matter for the Lord. Remember—even though it may seem he’s not concerned with your real estate dealings, he’s been in the business for quite awhile—moving a whole nation into their promised land, in spite of their side trips, back-tracking and downright stubbornness.

Getting people home is his business.

In the joy of that Carpenter of Nazareth,


Thursday, February 9, 2017

Bob’s Barn: When life hands you a carport—but you really wanted a workshop

Nat with shed stuff
Marcia Moston

I used to say the property we bought was “on the tracks”—the lake homes to the right of us were mostly a mix of new and nice, some to the left were tin and tacky. But after living here for the past six months, I’ve had to repent of my uppity attitude toward people who live in homes that are registered with the motor vehicle department. I still don’t appreciate those whose yards are full of trash; there’s a difference between slovenly and resourceful, but I’ve come to see that some of that yard stuff I looked upon as trash is actually someone’s creative vision just waiting to take form.

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

How to dismantle a mobile home—DIY Rule 1b:Beware the time-lapsed video

Marcia Moston

After we spent several thousand more than anticipated in clearing our newly purchased land, we discovered the old mobile home on it wasn’t so mobile after all. The person who wanted it for his own fixer-upper project abandoned the idea because he couldn’t get the permits to haul it down the road. So there we were with this big old doublewide parked right where we wanted to build. The man we hired to find the septic system offered to take it down. “$5,000,” he said. “You pick up the Dumpster fees.”

Ka-ching. Again. And we hadn’t even started to build. That’s the way it is, isn’t it? There’s always a high price to pay to get rid of the old before you can begin the new.

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Downsizing: Letting go of all that Precious Stuff

Marcia Moston

The thing about my childhood home was that even though it was small—with every closet and cupboard packed—to a child there was a potential for the discovery of unexpected treasures.  

I remember the pantry, long and deep, with a wall of upper cabinets and huge heavy bottom drawers I could hardly joggle back into place. Nevertheless, I loved to explore and organize the shelves. I marveled over the ruby-colored dessert cups that caught shafts of light and the stacks of Grandma’s green embossed dishes crammed alongside rougher items like waffle irons, hammers and a gun or two lodged up against the water heater in the far corner.

Why did no one care that these treasures were relegated to such an ignominious fate? Hidden away. Unused. Unappreciated.

I think it was the discovery of my sister’s coconut that shed some light on the matter for me.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

A Year of Nest Building

My intention when I walked into Pier 1 that day was to pick up the chairs I’d ordered. It was the picture of the bird with a beak full of miscellany that stopped me. I turned to my ever-agreeable Bob. “Building a nest. That sums up my life this past year. I’ve got to have it.”

This was before I remembered birds build nests mainly to raise their babies. They live (roost) elsewhere. Clearly not my situation. My nest is post–birdlings. It’s an empty-nester’s nest, one that this time around I expect to live in until I die.

 Nevertheless, I bought the picture and hung it on the naked wall of my newly erected house.

That was in August—six months after my post about buying land with a vacant mobile home overflowing with someone else’s boxed-up,cast-off life. Six months of learning how to dismantle a trailer, sell a house, live out of a suitcase, design a new house and build it. Six months of feathering the last nest I ever intend to live in.

Which is a novel idea for me. I keep turning it around, examining how it feels to live in a place long enough to plant a tree and actually eat its fruit. (If I don’t end up being buried under it.) The previous eight houses of my married life all had a sense of impermanence—just settling there for the moment to do a particular thing.

Being true blue DIYers, Bob and I don’t get scared about fixer-uppers, although I should have been more concerned about what we were getting into with the last house we bought when the owner sobbed at the closing. “Thank you for buying it,” she said. We discovered she had every reason to cry. In fact, even after about $70,000 in renovations and several years of our hard labor, when we sold it, I wanted to thank the buyers and cry too.

Actually, it was the fear of having to live out the rest of my life in that big old rambling southern belle set down in a low spot that got me going. After months of searching for a new place, we had finally put an offer on a lovely property, but during the inspection discovered it had multiple problems. I was adamant we back out of the offer. Bob was frustrated and tired of house hunting. He threatened to build the garage he’d been wanting and just stay put.

I knew I’d have to come up with something fast. With the updated Realtor.com in hand and desperate prayer on lips, I headed out in search of That Perfect Place one more time. 

I stood on the hill of the overgrown property—so overgrown that you could hardly see the mobile home enshrouded under the brush. Oh Lord, this is on a hill (one of my requirements) and it does have the utilities in place (another on the checklist). It’s private yet close to all I would need as I age, and the price is right. But it certainly had passed beyond any hope of being a fixer-upper.

 I wanted a place of light, efficiency and beauty where I could see the sky and marvel at the Creator. This was a cave—dark, depressed.

Did we have the vision, the strength, the resources to tackle it?